i marry one girl who is younger then me and its my 2nd ily. after that i do nikah with her and send her abroad for further studies. after some time she involved with some person and ask me to marry with him if i left her, i gave one talak to her . after some days she again argue and not behaving well then i gave her 2nd and third talak . This 1/2/3 talak perioud is near by 7 to 10 days maximum. I mean after my one talak in 10 days i use 2nd and 3rd talak.
After that she realised and came back to me . Within a 20 dayas of talak given. And till today she is staying with me and live with me . We intercourse B4 complite her iddah . And till today we are living like husband and wife . My counfusion is this that is my nikah countineu after 1..2. 3 talak given by me and we intercourse b4 iddah. Or we did haram ? Or i have to re marry her ? Is it permissable to re her marry her directly with fresh nikah with fresh mahar. Or we use halala ? ( means she have to marry some other person and when that person give her talak and she complet her iddah then only i can what is the kaffara . Plz send me d full answer of my Qus .
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Hope you are reading this with full consent and at present mind. Don’t atleast make fun of Islam, I am pretty much sure when there is some other issues in your worldly life you go ahead and ask the people thousand times.
Ok, coming back to your issue,. As per its seeing as it looks like the way you are explaining talaq is done. But, also Iam not sure please ask this with proper imam or mufti or Authentic scholar.
I mean, how dare you just taking this topic so lightly , why you didn’t ask at first when you have gave all three talaq.
Atleast for now , don’t do intercourse or don’t go near to your wife , just ask mufti first, explain him your situation .
And as far Halala means your wife has to marry another guy , and that guy should intimate with her sexually, have intercourse with her thats the condition and then after wards if he wants then he can divorced her. Now, here you cannot force him to give her talaq.. It sounds funny, you cannot force his wife to give her talaq.
Your situation seems really complicated. I think you should speak with a scholar, to ensure that whatever course of action you take is halal.
Here are a few of my thoughts on the matter. Please note that I am not a scholar. If I am incorrect, I pray that someone will correct me inshaAllah and that Allah will forgive me.
3) A revocable divorce is when a man says a clear pronouncement of divorce (eg. a single talaq) – in this case, the couple can reconcile within the iddah period without the need for a new nikah. If the iddah period is completed without reconciliation, the couple can reconcile in the future but will need a new nikah.
4)An irrevocable divorce – talaq-e-ba’in – occurs in a number of situations, but in the context of a man divorcing his wife, it occurs when he says he gives her talaq-e-ba’in (specifically stating that the divorce is irrevocable) or if the language he uses is unclear (eg. “I’m done with you”) – in this case, if the couple choose to reconcile, they will need a new nikah.
5) If talaq has been given on 3 separate occasions, then the man and woman are no longer permitted to reconcile, unless the woman has, of her own choice, married another man, consummated that marriage, and that relationship has come to an end. In this case, a new nikah would be needed in order for them to be married.
6) The practice of halala is not in accordance with Islamic values. Essentially, what is happening there, is that a woman is put in a situation where she has to marry, sleep with and then get divorced from, another man. and often money exchanges hands. This sort of practice can add to the exploitation and oppression of women, and we should not do it.
7) I think that, in your situation, the second and third talaqs are probably valid (assuming you reconciled in between each one). If so, that would mean that you are no longer permitted to reconcile as husband and wife.
I think that you should discuss your situation with a scholar, and in the meantime, the two of you should observe appropriate Islamic limits for non-mahrams. It might be that things are ok, but things might not be, and when it comes to risking transgressing Allah’s limits, it’s definitely better to be safe than sorry.
It sounds like both of you have made mistakes, and need to think about what has brought you here. You might find it helpful to read our articles about tawbah and repentance, inshaAllah.